Okay. So tonight I just feel the need to write this a clear the air.

Sex in my mind is a beautiful and precious bond between two people, that should be held in high esteem. Sex is not for one person(no masturbating for me)or to be given freely. Sex is only good when it is a part of a longterm committed relationship. I will admit I LOVE sex. It is wonderful in so many ways. A connection is formed when you have sex with someone be it male-male, male-female or female-female. I will also admit that I WISH I were still a virgin(I don't care if you go by the rule of the cherry, I DON'T! Sex is sex be it oral, fingering or otherwise - and yes I have had sex with another woman). Sex can help to keep a relationship healthy, BUT must be something BOTH partners want. If you chose to be in a relationship with someone whom you know doesn't want sex, then don't EVER try to push it! Sex in a relationship also changes things. If you are with(sexually) your partner then you will long for them over and over, it is the way things work(normally). Sex can be a bad thing though, some people change after sex for the worst. If is often the case that people find that their partner becomes possesive and weird after sex. I believe that you should wait a LONG ass time(couple year) if not till marage to have sex.(We all know that in the church I cannot be married but I would love to do it under the state - if it were legal)

In a relationship if you decide to have sex you first need to talk about it. Make sure both parties are ready and on the same page about the stubtle changes the relationship may experiance. When in a sexual relationship both parties should have a say in whether or not to have sex. One should never push for sex. If one party decides they no longer wish to have sex again both need to talk.

I also believe as wonderful, beautiful, tender, passionate, loving and pleasureable sex may be that it is NOT needed in a longterm relationship. Though relationships that did at one point involve sexual encounters thrive better with sex it is NOT needed. Holding one another kissing and being close is also a wonderful way to express your feelings without saying anything and without sex. Talking is vital for a relationship no matter what it is but a relationship cannot live on words alone. Physical interactions are necessary! I personally will not kiss again until I KNOW I am in love. So that when I do kiss it will mean that much more.

Sex and laughing are about equal in a relationship. Laughing keeps things fresh and good, and sex adds a physical satisfaction that most of us long for. But not everyone WANTS to have sex. I know of a few people who see no appeal in it, and that is fine too. As long as you have a healthy relationship, which MUST HAVE LAUGHTER!


I guess point in case here is that sex is beautiful under the right circumstance and that it should not be taken advantage of. Sex is beautiful in any loving longterm relationship. Sex should be cherished. And most importantly sex is NOT necessary.
I am a perv, and I love sex, and I love the connection and I simply love so many things about it, BUT if I were to spend the rest of my life with a woman I truly love and NEVER have sex with her that would be just fine with me( I may be a bit pervy sometimes but hey I can't help that I am a sexual person)! <3